You’re scared to take a moment away from your family because the second you do, you know all hell is going to break loose.

You’re the one who has the medication/naptime schedules memorized. You’re the one who knows which foods cause tantrums and which toys lead to meltdowns. You’re the one who handles it all.

 

When you first started down the road of being a special needs mom, you made it a point to learn everything you possibly could about your child’s condition. You researched cutting-edge treatments and alternative medicines and poured hours into coming up with solutions that worked for your child and your family. You became the go-to resource when it came to helping your child; as if, subconsciously, this would make up for the guilt you felt about the fact that your child was different in the first place.

In the beginning, being proactive felt like you were doing something purposeful. Like you were taking back control over the massive loop life had thrown you for. You believe that a parent’s job is to put their child’s needs first. And since your child’s needs are unique this means it required something unique of you. But you never thought it would turn into this. That you wouldn’t be able to take an hour to go to the gym because you’d get a phone call before you even made it out of the locker room. Or the grabbing a cup of coffee on the way back from the grocery store would put everyone you left at home over the edge.

Instead, you thought you’d spearhead the charge toward helping your child and that the rest of your family would pick up the slack

You know that everyone handles difficult news differently. You weren’t surprised when some of your family took a more passive role when they learned about your child’s situation. You figured they had a right to adjust in their own way and in their own time. always knew families go through hard times. You had found the strength to keep going and be the leader your family needed so you just kept pushing forward. And, you made headway in taking care of everything that needed to be managed.

That’s not to say you handled the transition to special needs mom perfectly. You harbor a hell of a lot of guilt and shame and there are days you’re downright angry and resentful.

But you didn’t turn into a robot. To feel like every minute of your day is some preset, automated response to meeting everyone else’s needs but your own. You never knew how draining it could be to pour your heart and energy into someone else 24 hours a day. You had no idea how jealous you’d get when other moms got to go to the movies or nail salon by themselves. And, you certainly didn’t expect to wish none of it had ever happened.

 

Simplicity coaching solutions offers 1:1 support, in person or online, to help moms of special needs children reclaim their sanity, their joy, and their selves.

 

You’re looking for something to change…

You can no longer give from yourself. Your cup is empty and there’s nothing left to pour.

You’ve seen other moms carve out a sense of balance in their lives. Sure, their children might not have higher needs like yours, but they’re still able to find the time and space to enjoy themselves.

You ache for even the tiniest sliver of what they have.

You sincerely believe that the mom is the glue that holds the family together, but when you really look at your situation…

 

You’ve been drowning in the responsibility of caring for someone who needs more help that you can give. The amount of yourself you are sacrificing for your family isn’t working and it’s becoming more and more difficult to remember who you are and what brings you joy. You’ve been angry and frustrated a lot more than you ever thought you would be and you struggle to connect and be present in the moment.

It’s excruciating to see someone you love so much having a hard time functioning in the world around them. There is a lot riding on your shoulders to keep your child happy, healthy, and thriving.

But the truth is, special needs children often benefit from the support of people outside of the family. And there is no shame in admitting you can’t do it all, all the time. You’re not the only mom to shoulder all of their child’s needs thinking you’re the only one who loves them or knows them enough to care for them the right way. But this way of thinking and feeling is keeping you stuck and preventing you from having a piece of life for yourself.

The key is finding the right coach who understand the special needs spectrum from both sides and who can help you regain the bits of yourself that are missing. You’re ready to find the support you need to show up for the special ways your child needs, but to also show up in a loving and giving way for yourself.

 

With Support for Special Needs Moms from Simplicity Coaching Solutions

• You will learn to build the structure and routines your family needs to thrive while still having the time you need to care for yourself
• You will feel comfortable having a separate life from your family member knowing there are others who can meet their basic needs
• You will develop healthier connections to loved ones and not feel resentful of your role in a special needs family
• You will feel more relaxed about your child’s situation and know that despite your challenges, your family is going to be OK
• You will start to strip away the guilt you feel for having an individual life and taking care of yourself

What Coaching for Special Needs Moms Looks Like

Simplicity Coaching Solutions offers online coaching world-wide and in-person sessions to those in the greater New York area.  Each coaching package includes an initial intake call to help you and I get to know each other and your unique situation. From there, we will work together to determine the foundation of our plan going forward and our goals for the coaching relationship. Packages also include insightful workbooks, 1:1 weekly calls, and email support between meetings.

To help moms realize how much they put themselves last, I use an approach to coaching that incorporates the Wheel of Life. During this process, we explore everything from your career to your marriage, your friendships, your extended family, your spirituality, and even your finances to see how each area of your life is interconnected. This approach focuses on simple habits to help moms achieve big goals. We might also work together to help you feel more confident in the ways you work with your special needs child at home.

 

Choose from three levels of support:

BREAKTHROUGH 1 month of coaching: Initial 1-hour call/skype Foundational plan to make changes Simple step worksheet to work through  the main goal 1 hour call each week (4) Bi-weekly emails (8)

GROW 3 months of coaching: Initial 1-hour call/skype Foundational plan to make changes Mid-way regroup call and analysis to update the plan Simple step worksheets to work through the initial goal and revised worksheets if changes made mid-way 1 hour call each week (12) Unlimited weekly emails

CONNECT 6 months of coaching: Initial 1-hour call/skype Foundational plan to make changes 2nd month regroup call and analysis to update the plan 4th month regroup call and analysis to update the plan Simple step worksheets to work through the initial goal and revised worksheets if changes made during regroup calls 1 hour call each week (12) for the first 3 months 1 hour call every other week for the last 3 months (6) Unlimited weekly emails

 

More About Simplicity Coaching Solutions

Hi, I’m Melissa.

As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with years of experience working with kids who have sensory issues, I have seen the ways that families with special needs struggle. More importantly, I have seen the way that mothers of unique children shoulder the blame and responsibility for the child’s challenges. At Simplicity Coaching Solutions, my job is to help you undergo an emotional detox, so you can rid yourself of the shame and guilt you feel about your family’s situation. I wholeheartedly believe that once you clear your system of this negativity, you will come to a place of acceptance, loving yourself, and putting yourself first. You just need the guidance and expertise of a professional to help you look at the strengths you already have and how to focus your energy where it matters most.

I make it my mission to help moms accept their unique family situation, redefine who they are within the role of “special needs mom”, and learn the skills and techniques to care for themselves and their families. Simplicity Coaching Solutions is dedicated to treating every mom who goes through a coaching program like they are important and significant. It is my passion to inspire moms to strengthen who they are and pursue the life they want to live.

 

Simplicity Coaching Solutions was born from over 20 years working with special needs children inside my clinic Sensory Stepping Stones

During this time, I’ve helped countless families accept, adapt, and overcome special needs diagnoses and find ways to come together and thrive.  But one thing I noticed was that the moms in these families always felt the need to give more of themselves than anyone else.  And I became really passionate about helping them realize they were worthy of care and love too.

 

Who Benefits Most from Working with Simplicity Coaching Solutions

Coaching for special needs moms is best for those who are stressed out, overwhelmed, and have lost their zest for life. The coaching process works for moms who are ready to take an active role in changing their current situation and who are looking to partner with someone to achieve measurable results.

You will benefit from coaching with me if:

• You constantly compare your life to other moms and wonder why you can’t have a bit of their freedom for yourself
• You need help discovering ways to care for yourself while caring for a special needs child
• You are exhausted from doing the same things day in and day out and are desperate for a piece of life to call your own
• You are able to acknowledge the role you play in an unhealthy family dynamic
• You are ready to break free from the behaviors that keep you stuck in unsatisfying patterns

There are certain situations where you might not be ready for coaching with me. These situations include, but are not limited to:

• The stress and overwhelm you feel are starting to seem more like symptoms of depression
• The worry you experience is starting to feel more like anxiety
• You are no longer functioning at a level you used to, your eating/sleeping habits have changed
• You think you might need to see a therapist rather than a coach

Because I am a licensed therapist, I can help you determine if you are a better fit for coaching or therapy at this time; and, if that happens to be the case, I will provide you with appropriate referrals.

How do I know which package is right for me?

We’re never clear what our needs are until we discuss them with other people which is why every program offered at Simplicity Coaching Solutions begins with a free consult. But you may have an idea of your most pressing needs.

If your main concern right now is how much stress you’re under, you might be needing a lifestyle change. One where you have control over your emotions and know how to cope when things get hard. If you’re looking for simple steps to relieve some of the pressure, you might be a great fit for The Breakthrough Package.

Or, maybe your main goal is to become the best version of yourself possible. To be the mom, wife, and woman you know you can be. If you’re in search of personal growth, self-development, and the chance to put yourself first once in a while, you’re in need of The Grow Package.

Perhaps you just have this nagging feeling that your life is heading down the wrong path. Everything you try to do or accomplish seems harder than it needs to and making changes feels like pulling teeth. You want to get your home life running smoothly so there is an opportunity for more for you. If you know you need to take a step in a completely new direction, you’re ready for The Connect Package.

This is what you get with each:

 

BREAKTHROUGH 1 month of coaching: Initial 1-hour call/skype Foundational plan to make changes Simple step worksheet to work through the main goal 1 hour call each week (4) Bi-Weekly emails (8)

GROW 3 months of coaching: Initial 1-hour call/skype Foundational plan to make changes Mid-way regroup call and analysis to update the plan Simple step worksheets to work through the initial goal and revised worksheets if changes made mid-way 1 hour call each week (12) Unlimited weekly emails

CONNECT 6 months of coaching: Initial 1-hour call/skype Foundational plan to make changes 2nd month regroup call and analysis to update the plan 4th month regroup call and analysis to update the plan Simple step worksheets to work through the initial goal and revised worksheets if changes made during regroup calls 1 hour call each week (12) for the first 3 months 1 hour call every other week for the last 3 months (6) Unlimited weekly emails

Your Next Steps…

It is possible to have a positive, healthy relationship with yourself while still caring for a child with special needs. You will be able to get more organized and build more structure into your day so that you can feel confident that all of the small details are taken care of.

Just because there are unique considerations that have to be taken care of in order for your child to be OK, does not mean that you can’t come to rely on other family members or outside support to help your family function at its highest level – and that includes you too.

You will be able to spontaneously take a trip to the mall to have dinner with friends. You’ll also be able to relax and find comfort in the fact that your child’s well-being is not utterly dependent upon you.  Ultimately, you’ll have the peace of knowing your family will be OK and that you can build a part of your life that’s just for you.

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